THE BEAST IN EVERY MAN

You'll most likely think I'm not normal after reading this heading. I've not come to insult anyone and I am not a sexist. "Man" in that context means "Human being "...Yes ,there is a beast in everyone. Ofcourse not literally ,but in the real sense, we all have the propensity to be who we are not, to misbehave or to act in a very absurd manner. Beast usually mean a wild animal, inotherwords there is a wild part of everyone .
For example , A cool-headed man that showed a furious and violent side . People tend to give excuses or judge by saying such man has been pretending all along. No he wasn't , it was in him and had to come out by crook or by hook  ....Beast can be in any form ; Anger, rage, cruelty, drunkenness , ruthlessness  e.t.c

In a way or two ,we've all shown a trait that we ask ourselves where that came from ,because we did not even know we had such beast in us. We immediately want to apologize and the usual line comes up " I don't know what came over me" " it's the handiwork of the devil " No, it is not , it is you .
You had it in you all along ,there wasn't just a trigger to show it yet , and when it was triggered ,the beast came out, you probably don't need to beat yourself over it . Half of a problem is solved when you know what the problem exactly is , it's only when you can identify your problem, that you can share it. All I am saying is that , we all have that inhumane part of us but what differentiates us is the grace of God, self-control and patience to curtail it .

However ,you can't blame people when these things come out, because for every action there must have been a reaction or triggering factor. But no matter the factor or reaction, do not let people get the bad part of you, do not allow people's emotions affect and thus control you into being a monster . We can never be justified for battering , for violence or doing harm to people or oneself.

LET'S ARGUE THIS....

For every hour, minutes and seconds ticking, a child is born somewhere in the world , be it in Asia,Europe, Africa or wherever  ... We are not concerned about the 'where', that should be an acceptable fact . The moment air gets into the collapsed lungs of a new born, ( don't be confused , I am talking medically) and the positive reaction of " crying"occur to that said newborn , life begins for that Baby ...This happened in everyone , forget me trying to sound like I'm talking about a special baby. ... No matter the year, month and date the Baby was born, that exact date mark the begining of a new day,new week,new month and new year for he or she.
If this point is generally acceptable worldwide, I need an explanation why on my birthday or anyone's birthday , shouting Happy New Year sound odd or outdated. For example, if by April , I am just shouting mine ...doesn't it look silly?

Ofcourse it does, simply because a normal calendar starts Jan 1 and ends dec 31st, consisting of a total of 12 months / 365 or 366 days , the latter being the case of a leap year. If all this is said and affirmed , why is there a need for this piece then? I am not sorry to bother you , I am just here to prove that for every homo sapien , human being , individual or man, we have "an official and unofficial new year" . The official new year being exactly on your birthday and the unofficial one being Jan 1 when everyone on planet "Earth" celebrates the beginning of a new year. In other news, it's no news for some of us while some still deny this fact , but Tomie's blog is all about educating in different forms ... I am so sure someone somewhere thought about this too , that's why I will keep pouring out minds into words , into phrases, tenses ,just to make clearer views, ideas and points.

If you have contrary opinions or totally disagree with me , please lemme know in the comment section below . Thank you .

RESOLUTIONS OR NOT

Hi dearies....Errrm I have decided to change the way I write and so it's just going to be pouring out my mind into words, not necessarily in form of write ups... Let's see how it's goes. For those that might not like it , just support me, that's what friends and fans do... Or am I wrong ? Anyways back to the discussion .

It's a new year and everyone looked forward to seeing it including me, I noticed that the reason people look forward to January 1 is because it's a start of a new begining for them and not just an ordinary day. Start of a new begining in the sense that, they want everything fresh , some new set of items, some new set of attitudes or attributes. Some go further into writing new year resolutions. I for one don't buy the idea, simply because I am a short term person , when I see something not working or not cool for me , I want to change it or find a way to change it that same time I notice it. Let's look at it this way , if we have 5 things written out as our new year's resolution ,and at the end of the 7th month, one isn't even off the list yet , does it mean it a fail?
No , it's not a fail , it just mean that the list was probably unachievable or priorities wasn't  set right or at some point we forgot about it. For the most part ,the truth is that the new year syndrome comes and goes, especially mid January , it feels like the normal usual days and the whole excitement ,eagerness is being watered down because either new year or new day, life continues... According to Wiki, "The most common reason for participants failing their New Years' Resolutions was setting themselves unrealistic goals (35%), while 33% didn't keep track of their progress and a further 23% forgot about it."

Moral of this piece - Live your life daily as it comes
                                 Don't get caught up in the "new year syndrome"

                                 When you notice something not cool about yourself, make conscious effort to change it, firstly for yourself and maybe for some other people you care about. We can't please everybody. 

SELF-CENTEREDNESS VS. SELFISHNESS

I would like to state that this piece is my own opinion and everyone is entitle to theirs . So let me start off by saying that self- centredness and selfishness can be similar but not the same.
According to Merriam- Webster dictionary self-centeredness means " too interested in yourself and not caring about the needs or feelings of other people " while selfishness means " concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others"

The definition seem to be a little confusing but it is not . We are all self- centered. Hold on !!! Before you stop reading . Let me quickly say that I am very sane ( I know people will state otherwise) but it is the simple truth. There are 2 questions to this, the first one is HOW?  Self-centeredness means you are centering everything around yourself , since you are going to be there for yourself as long as you live, you do not centre your life on someone or something that may not be there for you or be there for long  . For instance , you are on a queue in the bank to get your money, the truth is ,nobody wants to spend a lot of time at the bank , let's assume you are the 3rd person on the queue, the cashier says the server is bad , the self-centeredness in it , is quickly joining the other available queue that has good server without thinking of other people on the first queue you are coming from. The other question is   " IS IT BAD TO BE SELF-CENTRED?" No,it is not a bad thing , after all you know yourself more than anybody else , it is your life , it is only very natural that it revolves more around you and your happiness matters most . In the above example , it is not a bad thing to move from the former queue, because you know how urgent you need the money , you know there are other things to do and not just spending hours at the bank .


However , being selfish means you are paying overly too much attention on your wants , needs and well-being. For example , everyone wants a better and brighter future but the selfishness in it is when you want to be manipulative, cheat and be deceitful about getting what you want because you probably think you are the only one that needs it. The bad thing about being selfish is that "Selfishness hurts other people"  it is immoral and not justified especially when it becomes too obvious and it is very irritating.
I understand that's how some people are and that circumstances ,events or the past has made them in that shape and form , but this attitude or attribute can be changed. It is very possible to be selfless and self-centered by making good decisions and impacts on yourself without hurting people . While you help people ,there are good outcome it brings to you too . I mean you can love others after loving yourself first. I am just trying to say that we can make ourselves happy without causing others pain . Let there be a balance.

Finally , Being self-centered can never be the same as being selfish . Take care of yourself first . Be your own centre of attraction. Lend a helping hand when you can. Remember that you are not the only one living on this planet "Earth" others play a role in it , for example , people sell the food you eat , people make the electricity you use , some people built the road you walk on . So therefore, as your life centers around you , life centers around other people too.  Take control of your life without having evil thought about people . Make the world a better place for people just as you want it best for yourself .

EXAM TENSION

There's a feeling we get after we've had thorough revision, tutorials and even group study or when we've completed the syllabus and done what's expected of us for a particular examination. The feeling that we are ready and sometimes feel we just want to be over and done with. On the exam day, it looks as if we are not sure anymore , we are suddenly tensed unnecessarily.  Some call this ,"Exam nerves" but I still refer to this feeling as EXAM TENSION. Here are the 10 simple ways to get rid of exam tension.

 1. Make sure you know when and where the exam is and get there on time . Finding venue can make you agitated and ofcourse getting there late can complicate issues.

2. Eat breakfast on the exam day ,avoid coffee or caffeine containing drink . Hunger at exam hall can destabilize you and dizziness is not good too.

3. Do not make last minute reading just before an exam. You might not remember, so no point .

4. Do not stand beside people doing summary or revision . It can make you think you are not ready enough or get you confused.

5. Remind yourself to read the instructions well before answering questions that follows. Instructions are for us to follow.

6. Relax your mind and stay calm, make sure you are with all the necessary stationery items you need. Forgetting anything can make you disorganize.

7. Tell yourself you know everything. You are not being proud , it's just a way of letting go of the stress of what you haven't done and feeling confident of what you've done.

8. Cheer up , be happy .Don't feel tighten up or choked up .Worrying has not helped anyone.

9. Remove negative thoughts in your head, concentrate on the result and expect the best . That's one of the qualities of a champion .

10. Take slow deep breathe before starting . It helps calm the nerves .

Having said all the above , Prayer is also key, so pray according to your belief. I hope the 10 tips are simple and realistic. If you think I am wrong , drop your comments.