Dearies, I think I am at this again , but this time I am not venting ,there are just some random things I can't help but talk on .Like someone I know would say , "Talk when you can,and if you decide not to,either ways, death is inevitable". I have made up my mind to write about it ,just so am free from it. Enough of the preamble, let's get straight to it.
I know we all have friends , please do not get it twisted here, there are different types of friends , best friends, close friends , good friends and don't forget we also have acquaintances( I don't even know where to classify those ones). Just to add that,it's not all the type of friends we associate ourselves with ,some from afar ( like the ones I am talking about today ) . I mean friends that we call at numerous times but won't even return our calls but remember us in times of distress. There are other friends or people that need our money or stuffs , but when they had enough,we probably aren't part of those they think of. Perhaps there are friends in our lives that want our free services but when it's time to party , we aren't part of the people they invite. There are also those that call our attention to their issues without prior notification but because of the type of person that we are, we go all out and render help to all these set of people (or fix their mess whichever the case). The most annoying part is ,when you help these people or friends, they won't even show their gratitude by saying THANK YOU , not like the 'thank you' is that important but it encourages one to do more .
Have you also noticed that such people or friends (whoever they are to you) tend to misuse the opportunity they get and they keep giving you more impromptu issues to solve, keep coming for more things or more of your free services? There are different ways through which they come to us and I might as well not be mentioning all ,I am so sure we all can relate . There have been different encounters like that before and I was always falling victims , until my eyes opened ( like my veil literally removed ) and I got to know that it's because they know we will always be there that's why they count on us when their normal plan fails.
To some people ,they feel it's because they know we are capable ,responsible and responsive,that's the reason they come to us more often. However, when it gets too much, like "please,come help me do this now,Please give me 'this' and 'that", it is called taking one for granted. If you think am wrong, Does it mean we don't have things we were doing before they showed up? or we bought those items just for them to have access to it ? Or our money is too much for us that we don't know how to save and invest ?.
The funny part is ,when we decline once in like 12 events, they think we are proud and start giving us attitude. Excuse us, We have our day planned out and We can't remember adding Your name to our to-do list. You can't always come for our help when we're not part of your "list of special friends" So please do us a favor .... Cut it. Cut us some slack .
Do not get me wrong ,I am not saying we can't help when we have the chance to, we don't have everything complete too .There are just some things that these " our friends " can do them selves and they can't always rely on us for some of our materials , we need those things too . It doesn't matter if you are too generous with your time and resources , Don't encourage laziness and selfishness ,if it's something you are good at, teach them how to do it , such that they can do it on their own rather than call you every time or misuse the advantage and if its requires team work let them know your convienent time. Most of these things happen to those that don't plan their life or time well, nobody takes you off guard if you pre-plan your daily activities and movement . Plan your life . Do not allow anyone take you for granted .
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